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“Be of good cheer. Do not think of today’s failures, but of the success that may come tomorrow. You have set yourselves a difficult task, but you will succeed if you persevere; and you will find a joy in overcoming obstacles. Remember, no effort that we make to attain something beautiful is ever lost.”
― Helen Keller
Today I wanted to talk about effort. For a while now, I have felt like I have been in a cocoon going through some significant personal changes. Some of these changes feel as though they are coming on a bit late; I am 36, after all. While wrapping myself in this cocoon, one idea that I have been revisiting over and over again is effort. Now, it should go without saying, but the things we put effort in show in our lives.
For example, for a long time I put more effort into other people than myself. In doing so, I lost who I was to who I thought other people wanted me to be — out of fear. While I know it was silly and detrimental, it is what happened. Through my life, I have put effort into the wrong areas multiple times; be it relationships, focusing on the wrong goals, or any number of things.
Not long ago, without being given the choice, I was removed from a place I thought I wanted to be and forced to reexamine my life and who I was. God, Fate, Powers That Be, or whatever you want to call it (maybe even self-sabotage) I think pulls us from things when we need to shift our perspective.
This might become a double-edged sword, however. When shifting perspectives or rearranging our priority list it might bring to light certain things we don’t want to look at. If you have been putting effort into relationships, you might find that it has been one sided all along. If you re-prioritize your passions, you might find something you once loved is no longer a dream
These are all things I have had to come to grips with as I have admitted hard truths to myself over the past year. On one hand, they might seem selfish. However, sometimes it’s not only ok but necessary to be selfish. If you’re anything like me, it is hard to prioritize yourself but at some point you have to learn that you matter and if you won’t put effort into you, no one else will. You might lose relationships but the ones that matter…your people, will stay with you, they’ll see your worth.
So, take stock of where you are and where you want to be. Put effort into the things that you want to accomplish and the things that are important to you. Also, put effort into you, because you matter.